Who Do You Love?

We grow up forming all different types of relationships. The first being that with our parents, then siblings and grandparents. Next we form bonds with our aunts and uncles, first cousins, friends and so on. As we get older we begin to desire love from the opposite sex and form girlfriend/boyfriend relationships. Ultimately, for some, this will lead to marriage and maybe children of our own. The the cycle then continues. So I pose this question, “who do you love”? In all the people we grow to love in life, are you one of them?

I’ve been blessed to have been raised in a loving home environment. I got to see love in action and feel the emotions that are attached to it. Not everyone can relate to this type of upbringing and some may feel that love itself is overrated. Regardless of how you were raised, everyone desires to be loved. Those who proclaim to not need it, are typically the ones who have not seen love demonstrated in its purest form. If you do not know love by now,

You do not know God.


The greatest commandment the Bible gives us is to love God with all our heart. The second commandment is just a great as the first, to love others the same way we love ourselves. If you take a deeper look into how you love others, it will be a good indicator to how you view yourself. Putting others down for one reason or the other, shows that you don’t think much about you as a person. You tend belittle people because you don’t necessarily like who you are inside and you don’t want to be alone in your thinking. When you take something that doesn’t belong to you, whether it is money, material things, someone’s spouse, even another life, that is a reflection on how you see yourself. You take what doesn’t belong to you because you don’t think you are worthy to receive what God has just for you. Another life is taken because you don’t value the life you have been given. We wonder why the world is in the condition it is in now. It is because so many people lack self love. As the saying goes,

Hurt people, hurt people.


We have all heard the saying, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. If we all lived by that simple statement, how much better would this world be for all of us? Knowing how to love yourself first starts with knowing God because He is love. We are able to love only because He first loved us. You may ask what does it look like to love an invisible presence. It starts with obeying His word. Exodus chapter 20 list out in the simplest form what we must do to obey God. Not only must we obey His word, but we must want to make the Lord happy with our lives. Is it always easy? No! Will it always be fun? No! Is it worth it? Yes!

Think about it. The person whom you love with all your heart, do you not do everything possible to make them happy? When we love God, He fills us with enough love to have for ourselves and some that overflows to give to others. I have found that when you seek God in all that you do, He will allow things to work out in your favor. That does not mean that life will go smooth all the time or that you won’t experience pain. What is does mean is that His love will carry you through it. When you love Him first, you desire to obey His word. By obeying His word, you learn to love yourself. By loving yourself, you treat others how you want to be treated.

It is a domino effect.


So I challenge you start working on having a relationship with Christ. No matter what you have done in the past, it is irrelevant to God. Come to Him with a humble heart. Ask for forgiveness and turn from your messed up ways. It is just that simple. Taking that one step and continuing to grow in His word will cause you value who you are as a person. It will instill a confidence in you that no one can take away. So as we enter into a new year, let’s make a change. Let’s love God, choose to value ourselves, and just as important, let us love people.

                                                                                                                    In Relentless Pursuit,

                                                                                                                        Brandi Michelle


“Let love be your only debt! If you love others, you have done all that the Law demands. In the Law there are many commands, such as, “Be faithful in marriage. Do not murder. Do not steal. Do not want what belongs to others.” But all of these are summed up in the command that says, “Love others as much as you love yourself.” No one who loves others will harm them. So love is all that the Law demands.” – Romans 13:8-10 CEV


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