Who Taught You?

Who did you learn from?

At some point, I’m sure we have all seen a female of any age behaving inappropriately in our presence or out in public. We’ve all seen the teenage girl out in public cursing or scantily dressed. Maybe it was a wife yelling at her husband with a crowd of people around. Whether it’s the female who has had way too much to drink or the woman who gossips all the time, this behavior was learned. This is not to bash or put anyone down, because we have all done things as females that did not put us in the best light. My question is simply “Who taught you?”.

What women are you watching?


So called reality television and social media have really had a negative impact on how we as women and girls view ourselves. It teaches us that we must always leave the house with a full beat face, wearing brand labels, and you must be loud to be heard. We see women arguing, cursing each other out, throwing drinks on each other and wearing clothes that leave no room for the imagination. 

Does this happen in reality, yes it does, but is this the only representation you have in your life as to how a woman should behave? Do we want the generation of females after us to be taught that these actions are acceptable?

Is there a woman who inspires you?


I’m aware that not everyone is blessed to have a mother, grandmother or aunt whose been a positive and active role model in their life. If that is your reality, regardless of this fact, you’ve come across someone who you admired at some point and time. It could be a woman you see at church who is friendly and inviting, the lady at work who is never involved in the workplace drama, or a stranger you see out laughing with her husband and playing with her children. 

There are women everywhere who are inspiring and doing positive things within their sphere of influence. Though you may not know them personally, you can still take the quality you like in them and apply it to your life.

So what kind of woman are you?


Whether or not you realize it or even want it, someone is watching you. There are women, both younger and older than you who are looking to see if there are qualities in you that they don’t possess. When you speak, do you build people up or tear down? Do you walk with confidence or defeat? Are you holding your husband up with high regard or do you treat him as if he should be grateful to have you? Are you a safe place for your children or do you only find fault in them? Do you show up to work when you can and do just enough to get by or are you diligently working and showing up on time? Although we don’t need to be consumed in how other see us, we need to be aware. Just as we learned our behavior from someone, there are others who are also learning from us.


God has called each of us to be women of faith. We are to possess wisdom which He gives generously, and apply it to our lives. If we are called to be godly women, it is our duty to show other women and girls how to present themselves. This doesn’t have to be done by criticizing them our their behavior or actions, but by simply modeling it in your own life. The phrase holds true, actions speak louder than words. Saying you are a godly woman yet you have a nasty attitude negates anything godly about you. How we carry ourselves daily is a true testament to how much of God lives in us. You may not have had someone to teach you how to be a godly woman, but you have the responsibility to learn and eventually to teach others.

                                                                                                  In Relentless Pursuit,

                                                                                                        Brandi Michelle


Who are some people that have influenced you in your life? Was your experience positive or negative and do you feel God is calling you to do better? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts!


“Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.” Titus 2:3-5 NLT



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