What Do You See In Me?
I recall when I was younger and dating, I would ask the guy after we’ve been out a few times, “What do you see in me?”. I’m sure most you reading can remember asking this question in the beginning of a relationship. For the most part, their response would tie into our personality or looks. However, when the relationship doesn’t work out, you are left thinking that the good things you once heard about yourself may not have been as good as you once thought. Now you begin to question your worth all because someone else changed their mind about how they felt about you.
This can begin a downward spiral.
When you don’t understand who you are, it is easy to get caught up in how others view you. As their mind changes, so does yours, because you based your value on someone who couldn’t see it. So to compensate for the emptiness we feel inside, we turn to activities that can be deleterious to our mental state. So we overspend trying to buy happiness or we drown ourselves in hair, makeup, injections and the like, trying to change our appearance. Bruno Mars said it best, “you’re amazing just the way you are”. Now this is not to say stop wearing makeup and doing things that puts a pep in your step. It’s more so to say, don’t be consumed by it to the point where you feel you can go without it.
It’s not just the ladies to struggle with this issue.
Fellas, do you tie you value into your vocation or job? Do you feel more of a man if you make a certain amount of money? Or maybe it’s the designer threads and nice vehicle you drive that makes you happy with how you view yourself. I know a major factor that holds near and dear to you is the need for respect. Internally, do you process the lack of respect you may receive as you being too soft? The fact of the matter is that regardless of your sex, race, background or religion, we all have dealt or are currently dealing with insecurities. The problem is that we look to people and things to validate who we are as a person. So before you ask someone about their option of you, ask God.
What do You see in me?
My spiritual mother told a story of when she struggled with insecurities. One day while on vacation at the beach, she began to look out at the ocean and marvel in its beauty. In that moment she heard her inner voice (which is the Holy Spirit) whisper to her words that changed how she forever saw herself. The voice said, and I paraphrase, “You think the ocean is beautiful and I didn’t even make it in My image.” From that point on she understood that if God could make the ocean so beautiful, how much more awesome did He create her because she was made in His image. The same goes for you and me.
We are enough!
God wants each and every one of us to understand how important we are to Him. Our value should not be based on what others think, but on who He says we are in His eyes. We are qualified and more than conquerors through Him. He says we are marvelously made, meaning there was no mistake in creating us. We are worth dying for, that is why He allowed His Son to be killed so that we could have eternal life. He pursues us and will stop at no end to find us when we are lost. Nothing can separate us from His love.
Regardless of who likes us, God loves us with an everlasting love that will never fade. He knew us before we were ever in our mother’s womb and we are so important that He knows every strand of hair (or the lack thereof) on our heads. We come from royalty and should not lower our standards for anyone or anything. When others decided to toss us away, He chose us. We don’t need people to complete us because in Him, we are complete and and have all that we need.
So it doesn’t matter the opinions others have towards us; that is their business, not ours. You will learn as you become intentional in growing closer to Christ, that you have been equipped with all that you need. There is nothing missing and nothing broken because you are a masterpiece created for a purpose!
In Relentless Pursuit,
“and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous! Of this I have no doubt.” –Psalms 139:14 CEV.