We’re Gonna Be Alright
Parenting is hard, but being a single parent is even harder. In a two-parent household, the responsibilities are to be shared between the husband and wife. You work as a team in providing, disciplining, teaching and even “ubering”. Unfortunately, some parents never had the chance to parent within a marriage or you went from being married to now parenting on your own? A job which was designed for two people is now the sole responsibility of one. “How am I going to do this? Will I be able to provide?” In the beginning, you may have asked yourself these questions but as you jump in and do what comes naturally to you, you end up realizing “We’re gonna be alright.”.
Design for the Family
When you think about the makeup of a family, it’s natural to picture a husband, wife, and children because this is the order in which God created it to be. However, as we all know, life circumstances have expanded how families look. Although God’s plan for the family is perfect, due to the decisions we make, it’s not always the best. Therefore single-parent families exist. But in spite of having a family dynamic that may be different from how God created, it doesn’t make you any less of a family. So if you became a single parent because of a mistake you made, a tragic violation, or divorce, know that you and your child or children are indeed still a family.
Being a single parent myself, that resulted from a divorce, I understand the concerns of a single mother. However, as I navigate through this unplanned journey, I have come to rely more on God than I ever did while married.
Though at times doing this alone can be frustrating, I know that as long as I am seeking God first in how to raise my child, all other things will work out. I may not know how it’s going to happen or the details of when, but I trust that God has a plan to make sure my family will be alright.
Single parenting is nothing new
If you look at Hagar in the Bible in Genesis 21, she too was a single parent. Her circumstances were very unconventional, however, not too far from situations women still find themselves in today. She had a child out of wedlock and by a married man. I would even go as far as considering it as rape because she had no choice in the matter.
After being forced away from the child’s father, his wife and their promised son, she found herself having to care for her child alone. When the resources she had were depleted, she thought it was only a matter of time before they both died. Even still, she continued to look after him and did what she knew was best for him.
Despite how her child was conceived, God still covered him. Even though it didn’t look like there was anything left to give her child, God made a way. Not only did God look after them but He had a plan for her son that far exceeded her expectations. He would later become the leader of a great nation.
It’s Not Over
To all the single parents (both moms and dads), who may come across this post, I am here to encourage you that God has a plan. The plan you had for your marriage may not have worked out, but God is still in control. Your pregnancy may have been unplanned by your own fault or out of your own control, but God’s plan has not changed.
Keep your focus on God and place your child in His hands.
Even that which was set out to kill you will be used to work in your favor. Don’t allow society, religious people or your circumstance, place you in a box as being less than. You are a family and you are loved with an everlasting love. When you call on God, He will answer and show you how to be the best parent you can be.
So whenever you or your child are in doubt about your future remember that “We’re gonna be alright.”
In Relentless Pursuit,
“If you obey all the decrees and commands I am giving you today, all will be well with you and your children. I am giving you these instructions so you will enjoy a long life in the land the Lord your God is giving you for all time.”” – Deuteronomy 4:40 NLT