Tell Me Where It Hurts
As a mother, we tend to know when something is wrong with our children. There was a time when my daughter was a toddler and I noticed she wasn’t her normal joyful and energetic self. Though she didn’t quite understand the problem, she felt that something didn’t feel right. The first thing we do as a mom is place the back of our hand on our child’s forehead to check for a fever. Her temperature felt fine but I knew she was not feeling well. So I said to her, “tell me where it hurts”, and she pointed to her belly. When she did that, it was obvious she had a tummy ache. Now that I knew the source of her problem, I was able to fix it.
How often do we walk around hurting and keeping our pain to ourselves? Let me tell you, I know first hand what it is like to carry a pain so heavy that I didn’t think it would ever end. Going through a divorce brings about a pain like no other. It is true when you hear that it hurts more than death. It is something I wouldn’t even wish on an enemy. The difference is that death is final. Once it happens there is nothing that can be done about it. You have no choice but to accept it because that person is no longer here on earth. On the other hand, trying to fight for a marriage you thought was supposed to be forever, is harder to accept. As long as your spouse is living and breathing, you feel that there is a chance to save it.
Sometimes we can’t mend what has broken us.
Maybe for you, it is the death of a loved one that has hurt you to your core. Is it a relationship with your child that has become estranged that breaks your heart each day? Did you get a bad report from the doctor that has turned your world upside down? For me, it was a gut wrenching divorce that hurt me through and through. For a time, I tried to hold in the pain and act as if I was okay, when deep down I was shattered. That is what some of us are taught or have come to believe on our own. Don’t show our weakness or pain to others. Like with my toddler, if she hadn’t told me where it hurt I wouldn’t have know how to help her.
So tell God where it hurts.
He wants us to come to Him with the things that burden us. God said that He would trade what weighs us down with something that will lighten our load. There is no way for Him to do this if we are too prideful to tell Him what hurts us. All you have to do is bring it to Him. He won’t judge you nor make you feel worthless. In fact His love will take away the pain. Like a child who has scrap their knee, the pain is only bad until mommy or daddy comes and just love the pain away.
That is what God wants to do for you.
Bring Him the pain from that death, divorce, sickness, or whatever it is that has hurt you. God is gentle and humble at heart. He will give you rest for you soul, so stop trying to fight the pain and release the pain. His word says that even though we walk though the darkest valley, He is always with us. No matter how deep the pain may be, nothing is too hard for God to handle. All you have to do is just tell Him where it hurts.
In Relentless Pursuit,
“Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.” – Psalm 55:22 NLT