Actually, what is love? Culture will have us to believe that love is a feeling. You meet someone, get to know each other, have common interest and attraction towards each other. Feelings begin to form and boom, love shows up. This is what our brains are trained to think about how love is formed. I too thought this way for majority of my life, but circumstances and situations opened my eyes to see that what I thought was completely wrong.
How often have you been “in love”; once, twice, too many times to count? Regardless of the number or whether or not you remained in the same relationship throughout your life, more than likely at some point and time, your thinking about what love is was also misconstrued. We tend to think that the emotions that flood our mind and bodies must be love. I want to challenge you today on what you may consider love to be.
True love is not a feeling, it is an action.
Now this does not mean that if someone buys you things, takes you out, or introduce you to the people in their life, that is suppose to be an indicator of their love for you. Although these things may be done when someone loves you, none of them are actions that prove true love. God has given us all discernment, but it is up to us to use it. Don’t be so desperate for someone to love you that you fail to see them setting you up and using you. “So how do I know the love is real?” It must be tested.
Real love is patient and kind. It will will not rush you to do anything, but it will wait. It will not make you feel bad yourself because it will esteem and lift you up. Love is not jealous and prideful. It won’t talk down to you or be self absorbed. You don’t have to worry about love betraying you because it will honor you. It will not be able to anger easily and it forgives.
Love doesn’t lie or give alternative facts because it walks upright with character. When you have encountered love, you are protected, strengthen and not alone. It is enduring, giving, and unconditional. Love is not questionable because it trusts, it’s sacrificial, and selfless. You have hope knowing that it will never leave or forsake you because it is relentless. Love pushes past pain and doesn’t give up when times get hard. Isn’t this what we all want when we think about love? If it is, what you really want is God because…
God is love.
Let’s be honest, we all want to be loved. It is a key factor in what drives us. The problem is that we tend to misunderstand it and look for it in people or things. Kids join gangs because they are looking to belong. Females post half naked pictures on social media because they are looking for their worth to be validated. Guys take steroids because they feel if they bulk up and show their strength, they will be accepted. Children act out and become rebellious because they want attention. How many times have you settled into a relationship with someone you know is not good for you all because you don’t want to be alone? All of these actions stem from desiring to be loved.
People and things are all temporary but God’s love is forever. When a loved one passes away, God’s love comforts you. If your spouse walks out of your life, God’s love remains with you. Maybe your child feels they don’t need you in their life, but God’s love gives you the strength to not give up on them. So if you are searching for love, search for God, and you will find a love like no other.
In Relentless Pursuit,
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8