In a marriage, it takes equal participation from both the husband and wife. Both parties must be willing to do what’s necessary to make the marriage succeed. The wife has her part but it’s the husband’s duty to love her.
Obviously, both the husband and wife should love each other, but the husband is called to go beyond in showing his love for his wife because women and men are wired differently. We both need different things in order to feel appreciated.
Here are three integral ways a husband can show his wife just how much he loves her.
This should go without saying but the main way a husband can show his love for his wife is by sacrificing for her. Just as Jesus sacrificed His life for us, the church, so a husband is to sacrifice for his wife.
Ephesians 5:25 states: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
What does this look like?
When a husband sacrifices, he put all others aside and places his wife as his priority. So although there are other people that are important to him and who he may be responsible for, no one comes ahead of his wife here on earth.
So that includes children, parents, job, business, friends, and even the church. A wife needs to be assured that no matter what’s on his plate, she comes first.
Side note: This is not to say that the wife is to take on a Jezebel spirit and take advantage of her role but she is to be confident that her husband praises her.
A wife should know without a shadow of a doubt that her husband will sacrifice his flesh when the enemy tries to tempt him. She needs to be confident in knowing regardless of who her husband is around, he takes his love for her with him for everyone to see even when she is not present.
Another way a wife knows she is loved by her husband is that he covers her. According to Ephesians 5:27 is states that the husband is to present his wife without a stain, wrinkle or blemish. This refers to Christ wanting the church to look its best before His return. Just as Christ wants us to reflect who He is, husbands should want their wife to reflect how he treats her.
A wife who is loved by her husband has a special look. Her beauty shines from the inside out because she is covered by her husband’s love. She has no worry because he makes sure she is provided for, protected and secure. He leads her as God sees fit and makes sure no harm comes her way that’s within his power. He covers her to make sure he doesn’t do anything to embarrass or bring shame upon her.
I understand that not everyone is affectionate but for the many wives who are, this is a necessity. It doesn’t matter if you as a husband is not normal the affectionate type, this is something you have to sacrifice in order to give your wife what she needs.
Hold her hand when you’re out in public. Give her a kiss on the forehead just because. Always acknowledge her presence so that there is never a question as to who she is to you. A touch around her waist as she cooks or a pat on her bottom as she washes the dishes are simple ways for her to feel your love.
I could go on and on about ways in which you can be affectionate with your wife but I think you get the picture.
So, fellas, I encourage you whether you are a husband or want to be a husband to take these instructions to heart. Sacrifice for her, cover her, be affectionate towards her and most of all love her.
In Relentless Pursuit,
“In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” – Ephesians 5:28 ESV