Let Them Go

Have you ever tried to control a situation that was out of your hands? No matter what you did, it couldn’t change the outcome. At some point and time, you had to make a decision. And depending on the circumstance, it could have been the most difficult decision you’ve ever had to make. Unfortunately, many who are or were married have been faced with this dilemma. When a spouse makes a choice to walk away from their marriage and family, what do you do? You let them go.


spousal abandonment


“Why wouldn’t you stop your spouse from leaving you?”


Frankly, how could you stop them? It’s not saying that you want them to leave, but who are you to stop another adult from making a decision? I know the thought of it may be crushing and feel as if you are giving up on your marriage, but it is actually the opposite.


You are placing it into the hands of the Creator.


One thing I can say I have learned, having gone through a divorce myself, is that you can’t be the Holy Spirit for your spouse. Pushing God’s plan for marriage onto your spouse as a way of trying to get them to change will not work. If a person ever decides to leave you, there is nothing you can do or say that will keep them around. At the end of the day, only God can change their mind and they must be willing to allow Him to do so.

lean not on your own understanding


As the scripture states, you can’t depend on your own understanding in prayersituations that are out of your control. This is when you must find the strength to fully trust that God will work on your behalf, even if it does not turn out in your favor.

When it comes down to it, we are only responsible for our own actions. All marriages go through tough times and that is completely normal. So don’t allow the enemy to fool you into thinking you are the cause of another’s decision. A lack of discipline, love for God, and respect for themselves is the only cause for that.


You are tempted in the same way that everyone else is tempted. But God can be trusted not to let you be tempted too much, and he will show you how to escape from your temptations. 1 Corinthians 10:13 CEV


So how do you let them go?


This is where your relationship with God will play a vital role in your life. Having a personal relationship with Him will help you in making difficult decisions while keeping your sanity,(even though you feel as if you are losing your mind). God will guide you and lead you down the path He has already laid out for you. You may not like where He is taking you but you can trust that it will all work out for your good.


God promises:

I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5)


So it doesn’t matter who walks out of your life, God promises that He will always be there. He will give you strength during the times you are the weakest. 


let them go


In the midst of it all, you may not understand why this had to happen. Only time will reveal what you couldn’t see. You must trust that if God is the One who joined the two of you together, then God will bring your spouse back to you. In the event this does not happen, you still must trust that God is protecting you by not allowing them to come back. 


The phrase love is blind is so true. Love can blind you to the very things that threaten your destiny. However, God knows and He sees all that we can’t


I don’t think many would want to think that they made the wrong choice in who they married. Unfortunately when you are faced with the one you chose walking away, it’s a bitter pill to swallow to own up to making the wrong choice.


So if you have found yourself in the predicament where your spouse abandoned you, know what this is not a reflection on you. Though it hurts to what seems like no end, trust that it was a part of God’s will.


Don’t forget to like and share so others who may be going through a difficult season, may receive some encouragement.


In Relentless Pursuit,

Brandi Michelle


“They left us, but they were never really with us. If they had been, they would have stuck it out with us, loyal to the end. In leaving, they showed their true colors, showed they never did belong.” – 1 John 2:19 MSG


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