There is a process to follow with pretty much anything we do. On your job, there is a chain of command in which you have to adhere to. When assembling anything, there are step-by-step instructions that will show you how to reach the end result. However, if you decide not to follow the order given, you risk being insubordinate or causing more trouble on yourself in the end. That is why it is good to know your place or know the order in which things should be placed.

Follow the Directions


Whenever we chose to operate out of order, we run the risk of making our situation harder on ourselves. For example, I’m the type that prefers to look at pictures when trying to assemble an item. There was a time I put together a desk and called myself following the directions by looking at the pictures. Thinking I reached the end of the process, I looked at the desk and realized not only did something not look right but I had more parts left over. 

It became obvious that I skipped a step and it caused me to put it together incorrectly. Unfortunately, I had to take apart just about everything I previously did until I got back to the step I missed. So because I did not pay attention to the steps I was supposed to follow, it caused me to add more time to complete the process. I had to undo most of the work I had already done, then I had to turn back around and redo it the correct way. Not paying attention to making sure I put everything in its proper place caused me frustration and time.

The Order of the Family


This brings me to the order of the family. Do you know your place or are you operating how you see fit? Just like the instructions that come with an item that requires assembly, the Bible serves as a manual on how to properly function as a family. Some may say that they know what is best for their family but I beg to differ because I think The One who designed it knows best.


The original design for the family consists of the husband being the head of the family or the overseer. He is the one who gets his directions on how to lead his family, directly from God. When the husband is in close relationship with the Heavenly Father, he receives exactly what he needs to make sure his family is protected, provided for and loved.


The wife’s position is one of submission and nurture. Now don’t write me off just yet, hear me out. Submission is not some docile, weak-minded position that culture tends to make it seem. If we are completely honest, when we marry the right man, submission is not a problem. It’s meaning is simply accepting the authority of another. Therefore the husband is also under submission but his authority is God. So if you marry a man who is submitted to God, why would you not want to submit to him?


Next comes the children who are to follow both parents. In order for this to be effective, both parents must be in agreement as to how parent the children. Since they are children, it is natural to test how far they can go. If the parents show a united front and are on the same page, the child has no choice but to fall in place. Now, of course, there are more factors to consider when functioning as a family. However, the foundation doesn’t change. 

God designed the family to all submit to a higher authority. When the decision is made to break that order, dysfunction can creep in before anyone realizes it. You may not like having to read and follow the instructions laid out for you in the Bible, but they are only there to save you time and frustration. So before you decide to skip a step or get out of order, weigh the cost your family would have to pay without knowing your place.

In Relentless Pursuit,

Brandi Michelle

“Wives, understand and support your husbands by submitting to them in ways that honor the Master. Husbands, go all out in love for your wives. Don’t take advantage of them. Children, do what your parents tell you. This delights the Master no end. Parents, don’t come down too hard on your children or you’ll crush their spirits. – Colossians 3:18-21 MSG


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    Janene Eldred

    Thank you Brandi-Michelle! When we get right down to it, the only “organization” today that is not supposed to have a “head” is the family! No one, apparently, is supposed to be in charge. Now, do you think that could lead to a lot of divorces? Of course! The couple is constantly in a state of “who’s the boss?” And I agree, it isn’t that women roll over and play dead, to be walked on by their husbands. A wise husband, who is following the Lord, seeks Him first, seeks his wife’s opinion second, and then makes the decision. For some reason, wives today see this arrangement as a threat to their individuality. God bless you and your work!

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      Brandi Michelle

      That is true. As wives we must remember that though we are to submit to our husbands, we are their support. So after the husband confers with God, we are who he submits his ideas to next. Then collectively we come to an agreement. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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    TammySD; of Telling Hearts, and Smartsy Reading Teacher

    I AGREE, and it is becoming more and more clear to me, as to WHY. When I mothered young children, my world purpose seemed about them, and I found it difficult to put my husband above my children, ever. Now it makes sense. I could be a better “young wife,” if I could do it over again but alas, another challenge presents itself in my life at this time: how to age gracefully and how to be a good example for my grown children, in my golden years of marriage to their father…


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