“Friends, how many of us have them… friends, the ones we can depend on.” Depending on your age, when you hear those two lines you think of Whodini’s song. Actually, that is a good question to ask yourself, no matter your age. Of all the people you call a friend, how many of them are truly that?
In the age of social media, friends seems to come and go by the day. A true friend, however, will stand the test of time and be helpful in the time of trouble. The story of David and Johnathan exemplify this perfectly. Johnathan’s father, King Saul, was jealous of David and determined to kill him. Johnathan valued his friendship with David so much that he helped David escape from being caught by his father. His friendship with David was more important than his relationship with his father. Now that is what you call a friend who sticks closer than a brother. When the chips are down and you stand nothing to gain, a real friendship is formed.
Another quality of a friend is that they love at all times. A true friend will hold you accountable for your actions and tell you when you are doing wrong. Friends support your endeavors and encourage you to do better. I know some of us are used to friends who will go along with every idea we have, regardless of the consequences. These kind of “friends” will sit back and spectate while your life falls apart. They will watch you abuse your body and ruin your family but keep quiet as if it is none of their business.
How can this person be considered a friend?
Though you can’t force anyone to do anything, friends are suppose to hold each other accountable. If your home girl is sleeping around with with multiple men, instead of saying “girl you’re wild”, remind her of her value. Encourage her to treat her body as a temple instead of talking about how she “out there” to other people. If your friend has had too much to drink, don’t let them drive. Pull your friend aside or away from an escalating situation that could cause them to get belligerent or do something that they will regret. When you see your home boy with a woman you know is not his wife, check him on it. Don’t act like it’s okay, but remind him of the favor God gave him in his wife. Keeping quiet in any of these situations basically means you co-sign with their actions.
Friends love to the point where they care more about your future than they do your present. Oftentimes we will be quick to say that a friend is “hating” or “blocking” what we have going on, when in actuality they are trying to show us that danger is ahead. It’s time to take inventory on who we call our friend. You should want people who have your best interest at hand rather than your current desires.
A friend knows things about you that any other person would not know. We tend to give friends access to see the ratchet side of us, the sad part of us, the not wrapped too tight us, our vulnerable side, and any other side that we may feel others can’t handle. Our friends also know our patterns and how we operate in certain environments. The point I’m making is that a friendship is an intimate relationship, not in a sexual sense, but in knowing the inner most parts of a person.
Did you know that Jesus calls us friend?
How can the Creator of this world be considered our friend? Well, for the same reasons a human is, however, Jesus would be considered the ultimate friend. God knows things about us that we have yet to realize. He is a protector and give us warnings when He sees us about to head into danger. When we are living foul, God is not afraid to check us through conviction and tell us when we are wrong. He even allows us to know things about Him that strangers (non believers) do not know. We have access to His power and authority. He is a friend that you can always call on even when your friend on earth can’t be reached. When you have an intimate friendship, you tend to know how your friend will react to certain situations before it happens. We too have the ability to know what God desires and how He would react because He left His living Word here for us to gain intimate access to know Him.
To sum it all up, we should be modeling our friendships on earth as God has modeled for us. We don’t help our friends because we feel it is our job, but we do it out of devotion to them. Doesn’t God deserve our devotion as well? Don’t be quick to defend your friend yet silent when it comes to speaking out about Jesus. He not only wants us to consider Him our Lord but He also desires to be our friend.
In Relentless Pursuit,
” Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” -John 15:13-15 NLT
“A truly good friend will openly correct you. You can trust a friend who corrects you, but kisses from an enemy are nothing but lies. -Proverbs 27:5-6 CEV