Flaws and All
It is so easy to point out the things that you feel are wrong with yourself. Whether you weigh more than you’d like, your skin is not as smooth as you desire, or you never went back to finish your degree, none of that determines your self worth. Noone is perfect regardless of what you see posted on social media. A pretty picture doesn’t equate a great personality, nor does an anniversary picture represent a happy marriage. We all have things we can improve on within our lives. So how can we grow to love who we are and where we are in life, flaws and all?
I will be the first to admit that I don’t have it all together. There are mistakes that I’ve made in my life that I can only blame myself for allowing to happen. I have even found myself at one point feeling less than and like I failed, because I wasn’t where I desired to be. Oftentimes my mind would play games condemning me for my mess ups. “Why did you do that? How did you let that happen? You should have done this instead of that!” How does this type thinking help anyone? If anything, it helps you into a state of depression.
Have you ever been there?
In my last post, “Do You Still Love Me?” , I talked about God’s love for us. He sees all we do and He knows every thought that passes through our mind, yet His love for us doesn’t change. So if the God of this universe sees our imperfections and loves us just the same, why do we discount our worth? Don’t allow your mistakes, what someone else thinks of you or what you lack, make you love yourself any less.
Did you grow up being told you were not wanted or were you given up by your parents? Maybe the person you loved the most, walked out of your life without a second thought. Tragic situations like these could easily cause you to see yourself as unloved and not enough. Your mind could be telling you that you were a mistake and hard to love. But all these are lies from the enemy. We make mistakes and don’t always get it right, but always remember that:
God never makes a mistake.
When He made you, He made a masterpiece. Your big eyes, your height, hair texture, skin tone, thick bone structure, that limp when you walk, your high pitched voice, everything about you was pre-planned by God Himself. Before your parents ever considered you, God knew you! Let that sink in….God knew you. Do you realize how special that makes you? To have the Creator of this world take the time to form you, flaws and all, is pretty dope! You were not placed on this earth to disrespect and devalue yourself. God created you for a purpose bigger than what you can even imagine.
Learn to love yourself.
Other people’s opinion of you is none of your business. The only opinion that matters is what God says about you. He says you are loved, marvelous, and important enough to know how many hairs are on your head! So regardless of what you haven’t accomplished, despite the things you wish you could change, you have value and are worthy of love. First accept God’s love for you and then you can begin to love yourself. I promise you, there is no greater feeling than knowing that you will always be loved by God. Just that fact alone automatically builds confidence within yourself and exudes an energy of self love that becomes contagious. So I encourage you to look at yourself from the lens of God from this day forward. Change what you can; like your attitude, how you treat others, and your eating habits, but accept and love who you were made to be!
In Relentless Pursuit,
“Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day.” – Psalms 139:13-16 MSG