I don’t know about you, but January is always a struggle month financially. Though I have a budget for Christmas, somehow I just haven’t been able to resist spending more than what I originally planned. So the next month I live a little more frugal than I do the rest of the months, trying to recoup what I over spent. Maybe for you it’s not only during the holiday season that you overspend, but everyday. Do you know why we do this time after time? Why can’t we just be content with what we have or what we can afford? Whether or not you want to receive this, the real reason has to do with a word that no one likes to hear….
Trust me, I know that it a hard pill to swallow, but you can’t free yourself from what binds you, until you call it what it is. You feel that your children will want more toys or items than you are able to afford. For me, I always want my child to have a better Christmas than the previous year. Nothing is wrong with that, but I shouldn’t put myself in a financial bind trying to make it happen. How does that benefit me or her? In actuality, it is not going to make her love me any less nor will it make her mad for opening up less gifts than before.
Listen, parent guilt is real…
Social media does very little to help as well. Some people will scroll for hours at a time comparing what they have to what they see someone else posting. If you are not careful, you will begin to compare your life to another person, more than likely you don’t even know. Now what you were once satisfied with having, you start feeling as if it is not enough. That used car you prayed and praised God for once you received it, is all of a sudden too small. Your circumstances have not changed to where you would need something bigger. What changed is that you saw someone post the new luxury car they bought. Pardon my grammar, but what had happened to you appreciating the car you were blessed to drive? You can keep it just as shiny, smelling good and maintained like it was a new car. As a matter of fact, it is new to you.
Seeing other people with newer, more expensive things should not cause you to feel insecure about what you have. You can admire what some else has that you like, while still being content with your life. The problem we run into is that we feel the need to have the upper hand on other people. You may live in a nice apartment but because that person just bought their first starter home, you will risk damaging your good credit and ability to live comfortably, just so you can say you own a home bigger or more expensive. The truth is that you can’t afford it and are now struggling to keep up your appearance just to impress people. News Flash:
They don’t really don’t care about you!
I heard on the radio recently that people are buying expensive items just to take a picture of themselves with it, to post to social media. After they take their picture, they return the items. Now if you a person that does that, no disrespect to you, but that is the craziest and most insecure thing you can do. Don’t you know that you can be just a dope with what is paid for in your closet?
Break free from this need to impress people.
When you are so concerned with impressing people, God is not inclined to bless you with more. Think about it. Say you gave someone $50 because they needed to get groceries and were having a difficult time financially. Though they accept your gift and spend it on groceries, you hear them complain. “How can I buy groceries with $50? It costs that much just to get laundry detergent and a handful of items! I normally spend $250 when I go to the grocery store.” After hearing these comments, would you want to help them ever again. Absolutely not! It’s obvious they did not appreciate what you did not have to give them.
Imagine how God feels when we are constantly wanting more yet not making the best of what we have in our possession. In life we all go through seasons: some ugly, others bad, some good and many that are great. One season may be where you can’t buy the usual name brand items you are accustomed to purchasing because your finances are tight. Be content in knowing that God will supply all of your needs, even if it may not be what you want. Show gratitude and appreciation. Understand that no matter what season you are in, God will give you the strength to face your circumstances with confidence.
Take back your power!
Refuse to let guilt or envy cause you place yourself in a bad financial situation. It’s perfectly fine to want more money but it is dangerous to love it. Trust that God has a plan for you. He tells us not to worry about what we will wear or eat because He has already provided these things for you. So I encourage you to learn to be content in where you are today. It may not be where you want to be, but know that it doesn’t mean that is where you have to stay.
In Relentless Pursuit,
“I know what it is to be in need and what it is to have more than enough. I have learned this secret, so that anywhere, at any time, I am content, whether I am full or hungry, whether I have too much or too little. I have the strength to face all conditions by the power that Christ gives me.” – Philippians 4:12-13 GNT