Who Gon' Check Me?
I can say that middle school age was not my best of years. I’m sure many of you can attest to this fact yourself. Some of you may also vouch for this because your children are now at that stage. You’re not yet a teenager but you’re also not a little child. You are stuck in the middle. There are all kinds of changes happening with your body and overall it’s just confusing. For me, this was a stage where I would get besides myself and my mouth had a mind of its own. I had that “Who Gon’ Check Me?” mentality, as if I should always get what I want. Though my mother was more than patient with me, my father made it clear as to who would check me. He wouldn’t say much, but the look on his face and the tone of his voice was enough to get me together.
Can anyone relate?
As a child, being disciplined did not seem as an act of love. How could you love me when you’re making me do something I don’t want to do; then I get in trouble if I don’t do it? The fact of the matter is that children don’t know what’s best for them. They do not understand the dangers that can come from their actions. All children see is what they want and how they think it could make them feel if they had it. The possible consequences are never a factor. That is why parents are there to guide, mold and train a child in the way that they should go.
Fast forward to being an adult, it remains that we are held accountable for our actions. Though we may be paying bills and raising our own children, we still need to seek wise counsel and be willing to be challenged on our thinking. It seems that those who lacked structure and discipline as a child, grew up with those same deficiencies. You get on a job, yet you feel your boss can’t tell you want to do. Now you have a spouse but why do you need to tell them everything you do? You’re raising kids but live by the code of do as I say, not as I do. It all boils down to having the mindset of “Who Gon’ Check me?”.
Well I am here to inform you that no matter how old you are, nor the responsibilities on your plate, you will always be held accountable for your actions. If you are a believer in Christ, you are to obey the commands God has set forth for you to follow. He has given us a book of His word that is to be used as a guide through life. The answers to whatever we need lie within the pages, yet because we are “grown”, we tend to think that we know what is best for our lives.
So how has that mentality worked out for you?
The bible says that pride leads to disgrace and destruction, yet humility leads to honor and wisdom. When we think we have it all figured out, God has a way of knocking us down from the throne we created for ourselves. Let me tell you, when you live your life with God as an afterthought, the consequences can be catastrophic. If God can knock princes off of their throne of honor, He can easily knock us off of our high horse. When we exalt ourselves to be higher than we ought, God will check us and cause us to humble ourselves. If you don’t know what that feels like, trust me, you don’t want to know.
God says that He will humiliate the proud and turn His face from them. But hold on, I can hear you now saying “How could God do that to us if He loves us?”. The reason is because we are His children. As a parent, when your child gets to be a teenager, around the age of eighteen, there is only so much you can do. You have raised them and taught them right from wrong but now they are at an age where you can not longer make them do anything. They’re still young enough to depend on you to take care of them but old enough to make their own decisions.
If they choose to continue to make wrong and destructive choices, there comes a time where you must let them go and allow the chips to fall where they may. That doesn’t mean that you don’t love them, nor does it mean that you don’t care what happens to them. It simply means that you have done all you can do and now it is out of your hands.
So you let go.
In Luke 15, there is a parable, or story if you will, that talks about a son who wanted his inheritance from his father while he was yet alive. The father knew that his son wasn’t ready for that type of responsibility but he had that “I’m grown” attitude. He ended up granting his wishes and the son left home to do life his way. The father loved his son and didn’t think that was best for him, but he let go of trying to convince him otherwise. Needless to say, it did not take the son long to blow through his inheritance and he found himself living worse than the servants of his father. Having messed up and walked away from the ones who loved him, he returned back home. Long story short, though his father let him go, he greeted him with open arms when he returned.
That is what God will do.
God will never force you to obey Him. He will, however, check you by allowing life to happen. There is a lesson in every trial we face and the quicker we learn from it, the quicker we can heal from it. Jesus Christ humbled Himself and gave up His divine privileges. He took on human form here on earth to go through the same challenges we face today. If the Son of the living God allowed Himself to be checked by the Word of God, who are we to think that we are holier than thou or above reproach?
At the end of the day, God checks us because He loves us. He knows what’s best for us, regardless of what we tell ourselves. So I implore you to humble yourselves before Him. Seek His face and turn from your wicked ways so that you will hear from God and be restored.
In Relentless Pursuit,
“Be patient when you are being corrected! This is how God treats his children. Don’t all parents correct their children? God corrects all His children, and if He doesn’t correct you, then you don’t really belong to Him. Our earthly fathers correct us, and we still respect them. Isn’t it even better to be given true life by letting our spiritual Father correct us? Our human fathers correct us for a short time, and they do it as they think best. But God corrects us for our own good, because He wants us to be holy, as He is. It is never fun to be corrected. In fact, at the time it is always painful. But if we learn to obey by being corrected, we will do right and live at peace.”
Hebrews 12:7-11 CEV
Hello, my name is Brandi Michelle. It is my mission is to encourage those who have been broken to pursue God, their goals and find purpose in their pain. Thank you for joining me on this journey. Read more about me here.